Behind vs Ahead

How much do you have ahead of you?

How does this make you feel?

How much do you have behind you?

How do you feel now?

What is the relationship?

We are often so focused on what is ahead,

that we forget what we have behind us.

The progress we made is crucial.

It shows us that we can tackle what is ahead.

Our past is a teacher, our future is an opportunity.

Unreasonable Demands

How do you handle unreasonable demands?

How do you feel about them?

How well can you see from the other’s perspective?

What is the agenda behind the demands?

We all encounter unreasonable demands.

Sometimes they are only unreasonable for us.

Sometimes they are indeed unreasonable.

Often, they are made to pressure us.

Or they have a hidden agenda.

Be careful in how they make you feel.

Denied Wishes

What do you do when you are being denied?

How do you react to it?

How hard do you fight for it?

How do you try to achieve your wish?

At times, our wishes are being denied.

Often, it has nothing to do with us.

Sometimes we might be the problem.

It rarely serves to give up fast.

Often, there is a route to your wish.

Chaos and Order

How do you make order in chaos?

What do you focus on first?

How well can you deal with chaos?

How important is order for you?

We will all encounter chaos in life.

We all need some order in life.

How well we can handle chaos,

and how well we can create order,

makes all the difference in life.

Unreasonable Demands

How do you handle unreasonable demands?

How do you feel about them?

How well can you see from the other’s perspective?

What is the agenda behind the demands?

We all encounter unreasonable demands.

Sometimes they are only unreasonable for us.

Sometimes they are indeed unreasonable.

Often, they are made to pressure us.

Or they have a hidden agenda.

Be careful in how they make you feel.

Compensation

How fairly do you get compensated?

What is the value of your work?

What is the value-to-compensation ratio?

How well do you feel treated?

Our time is finite.

Our time needs fair compensation.

This is not always attainable.

Yet, it should always be the goal.

Money alone is not compensation.

Recognition, joy, experience, growth, etc.

are also part of fair compensation.

Priority Clash

How often do priorities clash for you?

In what situation does this happen?

How well do you deal with it?

How overwhelmed are you?

Our priorities can clash at times.

What we perceive as top priority

may quickly slide down a notch.

Yet, we are not prepared to handle this.

Usually, in situations of overwhelm.

Take a deep breath and think.

Then you can formulate a plan.

Protecting Essentials

How well do you protect what’s important?

How aware are you of what is important?

What is essential to perform your job?

What is essential to enjoy life?

We are often negligent with essentials.

We do not protect what is crucial.

We do not prepare and plan accordingly.

Before jumping into anything,

plan to protect your essentials.

Order System

What is your order system?

How important is it for you?

What are the consequences of a bad one?

What can you do to improve?

The way we sort our things is important.

Not having a good system has consequences.

However, there is a point of good enough.

Obsessing over it is a waste of energy.

A simple system is the way to go.

Value over time

How do things change in value over time?

Which things do you hold onto?

Which things do you let go of?

When have things been worth keeping?

Some things increase in value over time.

Most things decrease in value over time.

For most, the sooner you sell, the better.

Value can fluctuate; timing is crucial.

Most things are not worth keeping.

Bit by Bit

How do you tackle enormous projects?

How do you feel when you do?

How do you decrease overwhelm?

How do you best get started?

Enormous projects are best tackled bit by bit.

They are often also best just started.

Pick a small task that needs doing and do.

Build momentum and add to it.

Every enormous thing is made from many small things.

Step by step, the end will be reached.

When to interfere?

When do you interfere?

How do you know it is time?

How do you know if you should?

What are the consequences of it?

Sometimes we need to interfere,

in other people’s business,

in other people’s situations,

in other People’s relationships.

We might suffer consequences if we don’t.

The others might suffer consequences if we don’t.

Yet, interference always brings its own consequences.

Your Type of Good

What does good look like to you?

What is good in the eyes of others?

How is this influencing what you do?

How can you focus more on your good?

We all have different beliefs and perspectives.

This influences what we see as good and bad.

This influences what we see as good enough.

If you do not know what good looks like,

other people will tell you.

This will ultimately lead to resentment.

Goals and Failure

How often do you reach your goals?

How often do you fail at them?

How much do you focus on them?

What else could you focus on?

You can be great at what you do,

yet you might still fail to reach your goals.

You can be the best at it,

yet still fail your goals.

Focus on a way of being.

Focus on consistency.

Focus on a greater vision.

Then goals become unimportant.

The Stress Sleep Relationship

How do you handle stress?

How do you adjust your workload?

How do you adjust your sleep amount?

Which suffers in favor of the other?

Increasing our workload is a typical response.

Decreasing our sleep amount is another.

Yet, the right move is the other way around.

Less sleep increases stress and exhaustion.

Exhaustion decreases productivity and quality.

This increases the amount of stress.

Meeting Honesty

How honest are you in appointments?

Why are you taking the meeting?

How will you best reach your goal?

What makes you be dishonest?

Often, we will lie to keep face,

yet the lies won’t help us attain our goal.

If you cannot be honest,

the meeting may be pointless.

You will set yourself up for failure.

And waste everyone’s time.

Relative Performance

How well do you judge your performance?

Do you take the type of task into account?

Do you take your respective skill level into account?

Do you take your experience into account?

We tend to compare apples with oranges.

On some things, we will perform amazingly.

On some things, we will perform abysmally.

Some things we will know how to do.

Some things we will do for the first time.

This all needs accounting when reviewing.

How You Perform

How often do you worry about your performance?

How much praise do you get for it?

How much do you praise yourself?

How much do you expect of yourself?

If you worry about your performance,

you are doing fine!

Non-performers tend not to worry at all.

If you worry, you are likely a top performer.

If others praise you, yet you don’t praise yourself,

your standards might be very high.

Recognize this, be kind to yourself,

and continue to own.

Self-Space

How much space do you have for yourself?

How often can you take space?

What do you do in this space?

How much do you need of it?

We all need space for ourselves.

Each of us needs different amounts.

Without space, we are not in tune.

Space for ourselves serves as a reset.

To make big decisions, you need space.

To know what you need, you need space.

Duvet Therapy

How often do you apply duvet therapy?

How often does your body scream for it?

What makes you feel like staying in bed?

How do you feel if you oblige it?

Duvet therapy should not be underestimated.

Some days, it is the only thing that helps.

Your body will tell you when it is time.

There is nothing wrong with it,

for when the body calls for it, you need it.

If you need it, you have deserved it.