How clearly do you perceive?

What judgments do you arrive at?

How well can you take perspectives?

How opinionated are you?

Facts vs opinions,

objective vs subjective,

right vs wrong,

Black and white thinking is simplistic.

And the world is complex.

This does not fit together.

Greyish thinking may be the way.

However, the world is a colorful place.

How useful do you feel?

Do you like to feel useful?

Of use to whom?

How much use is enough?

We all want to feel useful.

Useful to our family.

Useful to our community.

Useful to ourselves.

Useful to our grand goals.

And so do others. Always.

Never take this away from them.

How patient are you?

How do you know when it is enough?

Why do you continue to wait?

When are you being passive?

Patience and passivity are not the same.

Patience is giving something time to develop.

Passivity is inaction with no end in sight.

When you know it is time to act,

yet you do not do so,

you have entered passive territory.

Do not become a permanent resident.

How well do you remember?

And what do you remember?

Do your memories seem extreme?

Do your memories seem patchy?

Our memories are immaterial,

they are foggy, semi-material at best.

Emotions influence what we remember.

So we remember specific moments,

moments of joy, of pain, of laughter, of sadness etc.

Ask yourself, what goes in the white space.

How is your life defined?

Externally or internally?

Do outside forces affect your trajectory?

Or do inside forces affect your trajectory?

How do you get motivated?

Often, external forces decide what we do,

how we feel and how we behave.

Yet, our inner self should be in charge.

Intrinsic forces should be guiding us.

External forces can alter the path,

Internal forces should define the goal.

Who might be manipulating you right now?

How successful are they with it?

Who else plays this game with you?

What is their goal, do you know?

Anyone around you might try this.

Your colleagues and your friends,

Your family and your business partners,

Your government and your superiors.

Know how to spot it, and don't join the game.

Remember the last time you pressured someone?

How did that go for you?

How did it go in the short-term?

How did it go in the long-term?

Would you do it again?

We get pressured into all sorts of things.

And just as well, we pressure others.

The result tends to be suboptimal.

In the short-term it often seems great.

In the long-term it rarely is.

What do you not enjoy to do?

When was the last time you tried?

Who did you try it with?

Why not give it another shot?

Not fun is not forever.

The magic can depend on the people,

on the moment,

on the place,

on your age, etc.

Do not write something off forever.

What is your load limit?

How does your load limit change?

How good are you at loading yourself?

Does it differ for different areas?

Plans, tasks, responsibilities, belongings, people etc.

We tend to overestimate the load we can carry.

We load up till our axles break.

Incremental load increases are the road to take.

How do you feel at year's end?

How do you feel at the year's start?

How do they differ, if at all?

How much pressure do you feel?

The start of a new year can be stressful.

We can put ourselves under pressure.

Pressure to do and be better.

Rome was not built in a day,

and nor do you change in a day.

What do you focus more on?

Processes or goals?

Why do you prefer one over the other?

Or does one need the other?

If we do not know where we go,

we cannot pick the right path.

Yet if we do not pick the right path,

we shall never arrive at our destination.

How well can you concentrate?

When do you struggle more, when less?

Why do you struggle more or less?

What helps you concentrate?

Concentration is important.

But, not always easy to do.

Do what helps you, no matter what.

Walk, read out loud, stand, music, noise etc.

Who cares at the end, how you made it?

How much does a task cost you?

Can you afford to do the task yourself?

Can you afford not to do the task yourself?

How can you gauge real costs vs opportunity costs?

We are faced with this dilemma often, daily even.

Sometimes the real costs outweigh opportunity costs.

Sometimes we need to do something ourselves.

For lack of funds, lack of time, or lack of whatever.

Sometimes we can outsource for better use of ourselves.

When do you get stressed?

How often is it a time issue?

When time is the issue,

how did you get there?

Did your decision cause the stress?

Often, when we are stressed,

it is by our own making.

Saying yes too often, packing too much in.

Less is often more.

How well do they work for you?

How many do you set yourself?

What kind of things do you set?

Do you reflect on the bygone year first?

Often, these resolutions fail for us.

What type of person are you:

Goals, Processes, Themes, Intentions?

Use what works for you.

Less is more, don't overdo it.

And listen to yourself.

What do you want?

What is your worst nightmare?

What is your biggest bliss?

What do you cherish?

What do you despise?

Your worst nightmare is someone's bliss.

Your biggest bliss is someone's nightmare.

What is strange to you, is normal to another.

Find these people and share your nightmares.

How do you like to celebrate?

How do others around you like to celebrate?

How do you end up celebrating?

Are what you like and what you do aligned?

Everyone has different preferences.

Not every feast is liked by everyone.

Not every feast is celebrated by everyone.

Why should you buckle to outside pressure?

If you celebrate forcefully, are you even celebrating?

How often do you have a genius idea?

How often is this idea horrible at second thought?

How often are you thrilled by the idea?

How often are you disappointed by the second revelation?

Most first ideas are terrible.

So are the second and third.

It is normal to believe a terrible idea to be genius.

Going from genius to dumb repeatedly is part of the process.

In the end, there awaits a truly genius idea.

What is your contingency plan?

Where do you have plans?

Where do you not have any?

Why should you make these plans?

Anything can happen at any time.

Preparing for these makes sense.

Sadly, we often don't prepare.

We do not want to think about it,

about our fallibility and mortality.

How often does your communication fail?

Do your actions transport your intentions?

How are your actions perceived?

How might those perceptions be interpreted?

To understand your intention is a long road.

There are three bridges to cross.

At each bridge, there is a potential for error.

Usually, there is at least one faulty crossing.

One crossing is in your power, the other two are not.