Do you drag meetings into length?

Why?

Do you have a plan for the meetings?

Do you prepare?

Do you have a goal?

Do you finish once the objectives have been reached?

Not every meeting is an opportunity to connect.

Many are there to get work done efficiently.

Be aware of the objectives and choose accordingly.

Do you worry about things you do not know?

What illness might befall you?

What could go wrong in the future?

How much longer will your marriage hold?

Have you noticed, that these turn into self-fulfilling prophesies?

Paradoxical intention is real.

The more you worry about negative things, the more likely you will make them happen.

Be in the present moment. Enjoy the moment.

How do you end important conversations?

What could be important?

What was the conversation about?

What are necessary actions?

Who should be doing what?

And by when should what be done?

What can get in the way?

What should not be done?

Answer these questions together and agree on the way forward.

Summarize the outcome in a protocol and crack on.

Otherwise, the conversation might have been pointless.

How do you function?

Are you aware of it?

How do you learn best?

How do you get work done best?

How do you relax best?

What environment do you enjoy?

What makes you thrive?

We all have our particularities.

Self-awareness is key to understanding those of others.

Understanding yourself and others is a secret sauce.

What makes you blow up?

Which phrases in a conversation do that?

Which behaviour of others do that?

Anything else?

So stop doing it to others!

If you hate it, others probably will too.

If you dislike it, why do it yourself?

Blaming, negating, exaggerating and generalising for example.

Better conversations safe time, and energy while getting better results.

Negotiations with yourself are the hardest!

Hold on, with myself?

Do you always know exactly what you want?

Are the next actions you need to take clear to you?

Or are you split between decisions?

Are you interests and goals known to you?

Do you take the time to think about them first?

How do you feel?

This is called an intrapersonal conflict.

The better you are in dealing with it, the better your decisions will be.

Do you write reports to yourself?

Hold on...

Reports to myself?

Why would I do that?

What would be the purpose?

I know all the KPIs of my business or department!

Do you really?

Writing shareholder and investor reports for yourself can change the game.

You have to look at your own performance with scrutiny.

You will see problems much faster that way.

Just don't cook the books...

Someone is trying to pressure you into a decision...

What do you do?

How does this feel?

Why are you considering a yes?

Do you even remotely want to do it?

Why not just say "no"?

For every yes you say, you will have to say no to many other things.

Don't let others pressure you.

Say no.

Suddenly you are massively understaffed...

What do you do?

Do you go in a worrying frenzy?

Do you adjust your action plan?

Do you reassign responsibilities?

Did you have a plan in case this happens?

It does not help to worry.

Your team and you have responsibilities, a job to do.

Do the best with the resources you have.

That is all.

Why do you engage in conversations?

Do you have a particular goal?

Or a specific agenda?

Or are you afraid of saying no?

It might be impolite not to?

Or are you just curious?

The other person sparks your interest?

The reason for having a conversation is crucial.

Be interested and curious. That's the way.

What does your appearance communicate?

Someone organized or disorganized?

Someone creative or more traditional?

Someone reliable or chaotic?

Self-love, self-worth and confidence?

Uncertainty, self-loathing and worry?

Your appearance is crucial for social success.

Transport what you wish to tell and become what you tell.

Do you pay attention to your posture?

How important do you think it is?

Do you work actively on your posture?

Do you feel a difference depending on your posture?

How is your mindset with good posture?

How do people perceive you depending on your posture?

Posture is a crucial element of your aura and appearance.

Work on it, pay attention to it and life will get a little easier.

How much do you practice?

How important is practice to you?

How valuable is practice?

Compared to talent and Vitamin B?

Talent and connections will only get you so far.

To truly excel at something, you need to practice.

How much practice do you need?

Start to practice and find out.

What are you entitled to?

Are you entitled to anything?

Love and attention from your parents?

Wealth from your ancestors?

Respect form others?

Hardship?

Another chance?

Lifelong learning?

A roof over your head and enough to eat?

There are some things in life we are entitled to, but many we are not.

However, being entitled to it, does not mean you will receive it.

What makes you credible?

Is it your education?

Is it your experience?

The quality of work you deliver?

Your upbringing?

Your family background?

Your character?

Your mindset?

What do people value you for?

Look at these and double down on your areas of credibility.

Do you lack formal education? Does anyone care? If not, stop worrying and get on with it.

Do you focus on your strengths?

Or do you focus on your weaknesses?

Where do you think an investment pays off more?

Do you have a team?

Or are you a one person show?

Can you trust others?

If you can, then delegate your weaknesses.

Contractors or team members, it does not matter.

Get your weaknesses to the point, where it is no more a liability.

No more than that.

You have an opportunity.

You are unsure if you can pull it off.

What do you do?

Do you take a leap of faith?

Do you trust in yourself?

What is there to lose?

What is there to gain?

Sometimes all you have is a hunch and trust in your capabilities.

Take that leap, grasp that opportunity and try your best.

How do people seem to you?

Maybe some seem happy?

Maybe some seem to be grumpy?

Maybe some seem boring?

Whatever a person seems to be on the outside,

they all have their own story.

Have those conversations.

Peel back the outer shells.

Don't judge what you see.

Can you communicate too much?

Can you communicate too little?

Which is worse? Too much or too little?

How do you know where the sweet spot lies?

Communication is critical in any relationship.

Business, personal or family.

Learn to communicate, before it is too late.

Are you running away from something?

Why are you running away?

How is that going for you?

What do you need, so you can tackle it?

The thing will always catch up to you.

Escape-ism is not a solution.

It can help get some breathing space but beware of doing it too long.