How often do you reverse-engineer your success?

What made sense once the result was there?

Why did it make no sense before?

Without knowing your path,

would you have been able to reverse-engineer?

Often, what we do makes no sense.

And rightly so. Life is often random.

How many tried the same and failed?

Do not overly reverse-engineer your successes.

How well are your things in order?

Can an outsider grasp the situation in one look?

Do you still have a full understanding?

Who can you trust to share the understanding?

Whatever we do, should be done so anyone can understand.

Should we leave, another can take over.

Also, if anyone can understand, so can you.

Otherwise, we can lose the overview fast.

When were you last on a fool's errand?

What are you working on right now?

How do you know if you are on an impossible task?

At what point can you identify a fool's errand?

Who likes to set you on one?

Many a time in our lives will we be the fool.

Unknowingly so, up to a point.

Some of us are on one for all our lives.

And sometimes repeatedly.

Look at past errands and search for commonalities.

Do not fall for them again.

How often do you lose your temper?

What triggered your eruption?

What is the reason for the emotions?

Are they the same?

Often we build up tension because of something.

Often, we are triggered by a banality.

A banality that has no connection to the tension.

Actually, this is most often the case.

Why did that person just scream at you?

How much can you trust an average?

How often do you use averages?

How many decisions have you based on them?

How well have those decisions gone?

Often, averages statistically distort data.

An average without a median is worthless.

If you are given one without the other: why?

Try to get the full picture first.

How often does rage overcome you?

What enrages you?

What is the trigger for the outburst?

How do you feel afterward?

We all experience rage from time to time.

We can get enraged for all kinds of reasons.

Some people cannot help themselves, and some can.

It is part of being human.

Remember to apologize afterward, to yourself and others.

What is required of you?

What do you wish to do?

Are they the same?

Often, they are not the same.

What do your goals, require of you?

Are you ready to do what is required?

Many goals will require things of you,

things you do not wish to do,

yet they need to be done to reach the goal.

How stressful is the end of the year?

How stressful is Christmas?

Do you feel obliged to be different?

Do you feel pressured to do things?

What is so different from the rest of the year?

The end of the year is a trap.

A trap ready to catch you off guard.

Why say yes now, if you would say no?

Why do something differently now?

How much patience do you have?

How much do you control?

How do control and patience align?

Impatience can be like a fuel.

Or it can be like a break.

Whose choice is what it is?

Things we do not control require patience.

Patience can be applied to things we control.

What do you expect of others?

What do you expect of yourself?

How do you treat others?

How do you like to be treated?

We often employ double standards.

We might expect more of others, than ourselves.

We might treat others worse than we want treating.

Or the other way around.

Yet, is it always the right to have equal standards?

How do you celebrate?

What kind of things do you celebrate?

What does it mean to celebrate?

Why do you celebrate?

Wit whom do you celebrate?

Celebrating is important.

Important events need to be celebrated.

We should do something that marks a celebration.

We could dress in a way to mark a celebration.

We should celebrate with the right people.

How do you handle random adverse events?

What goes on in your head when they happen?

What do you interpret into them?

How do these interpretations come about?

Random adverse events happen to everyone.

Sometimes they happen often.

Sometimes they do not happen at all.

We tend to interpret too much into them.

A random event is just, well, random.

How efficient do you plan what you do?

Have you employed super tasking before?

How much do you get done in a day?

What is the quality of the work?

Planning for efficiency has an Achilles heel.

Efficient does not mean good.

The class quality vs quantity dilemma.

We can plan our days efficiently, cramming everything in.

But is it really worth it?

Where is the space to take advantage of serendipity?

How well do you predict effects and consequences?

How often are you surprised by them?

How severe have they been for you?

How many effects and consequences are possible to predict?

Everything has effects and consequences.

Everything we encounter in life does so for us.

It is difficult to predict them and react to them.

We get blindsided by them because we forget about them.

Some effects and consequences come at a delay,

and some immediately.

What drives you?

Why do you do what you ?

Why do you get out of bed?

What is your end goal?

We are all driven by something.

By an emotion, by a goal, or by an experience.

But, who decides your drivers? Do you?

You can. It is your decision that drives you.

Do you want to be driven by fear, gree,d or laziness?

Or do you want the driver to be something else?

How well do you balance your decisions?

Do you focus on the short-term?

Or do you focus on the long-term?

When is the short-term preferable,

and when is the long-term?

We constantly need to make a choice:

immediate results or delayed results.

There isn't one right answer, there is only a trade-off.

Do you need to eat the apple now, or better plant an apple tree?

How much banter is enough?

What is not funny and what is?

When did you go too far?

Who can you have banter with?

Not everyone enjoys banter.

Some people take offence.

Some things you find funny, are not.

You can quickly cross a line,

a line that you did not even see.

How well do you protect your time?

How much do you value your time?

How much do others value your time?

How do you want to spend your time?

Your time is a scarce and finite resource.

You decide what your time is worth, to you.

You can mostly decide what you do with it.

And where and in whom to invest your time.

What do you think about your heritage?

Do you love it or do you hate it?

Are you able to accept it?

Are you able to integrate it?

Each of us has our own heritage.

Family history, family traditions, and experiences.

We don't have to love them.

We should not hate them either.

We do need to accept them as part of us.

The question is, what do you do with it?

How often do you travel down the rabbit hole?

Do you enjoy these journeys?

What are the outcomes of these trips?

Why do you end up venturing into the rabbit hole?

Often, we get caught in a thought and pursue it, endlessly.

Usually, these journeys are meaningless.

They are mere time robbers.

Sometimes, we can reach an epiphany during them.

However, in general, structured thought processes outperform.

Beware the rabbit hole and stop yourself, before it is too late.