How do you go about getting people on board?

How do you convince them to follow?

How do you change their opinions?

How do you change their behaviors?

Do you tell them they are wrong?

Many have tried this and succeeded.

Even more have tried and failed.

Changing the position of a person is hard.

Telling them they are wrong does not work.

How often does the coin drop for you later?

Maybe, after someone insulted you?

Maybe, after you were accidentally rude?

Maybe, after someone gave you a warning?

Maybe, after someone communicated implicitly?

How long does it take for the coin to drop?

Often, you won't get what happened till later.

Often, this is frustrating, yet totally normal.

Make the most of the dropped coin,

for sometimes it may never drop.

How often do your expectations reflect reality?

How often do others' expectations reflect reality?

How does this difference occur?

What can you change to improve the ratio?

We rarely expect what we get correctly.

Other people rarely expect you correctly.

We can try to improve our odds at this.

And we can improve how we handle it.

How do you value your time?

Is your time at 20 worth the same as at 40?

How much time do you trade for money?

Where do you invest your time?

In life, we constantly trade time for other things.

Money, joy, experiences or stress, pain, consumption

Often the exchange rate is unfair.

Often we trade for the wrong things.

Trade for the right things, at the right time.

How do your decision-making capabilities vary?

Do they differ depending on the day?

What effect does your sleep quality have?

How important is your physical health?

How does stress move across different areas?

We do not have to decide right away.

Yet, often we feel we need to.

And often it is bad timing.

When are you in an optimal mood to decide?

How do you decide if something was worth it?

What timeframe do you look at?

Which criteria do you use to gauge it?

Did you have a goal in mind?

Often we will do things that we feel were not worth it.

But, were they really not worth it?

Or did we just not see their worth?

Criteria, timeframe, and the goal are critical.

Many things were worth it ten years later.

How do people passing by you live?

Whose life is more exciting, stressful, or complex?

Which stories are you part of?

Who is the main character in them?

Every person is living out their own story.

In some stories we are important.

In many, we do not even exist.

In some, you are a random dude in the background.

To sonder is to realize all of this.

How directly do you communicate?

Do you tell people what you mean?

Or do you communicate implicitly?

How often does it come to misunderstandings?

Most people have a directness deficit.

Out of fear of being impolite,

we often communicate in complicated ways.

In the end, this only leads to misunderstandings.

You can be direct and polite.

How often do other people disappoint you?

How often does their behavior offend you?

How many are they repeat offenders?

Which behavior repeat?

Every person has a unique situation.

Every person has their character.

Every person has their own challenges.

Accept other people and their situation.

Don‘t be surprised by how they are,

If you decide to continue to engage with them.

How good are you at judging people online?

How good are you at presenting yourself accurately?

How often do you misinterpret written communication?

Can you read between the lines?

Often we create an image of someone.

This is based on our perception.

And boy, can we be wrong.

Before meeting face to face,

Prepare yourself to be surprised.

How often do you take a bet?

Are you sure it is not more often?

How often do you make an educated guess?

How often do you bet on yourself?

And how often do you bet on others?

Life is more about taking bets than we like to think.

Every investment is a bet.

Probabilities and stakes may be different.

In the end it is all a game of betting and odds.

Stack the odds in your favor and bet on yourself.

How much do you follow global events?

Which ones do you follow?

Why do you follow them?

Do they deliver critical information for you?

We are often mesmerized by the news.

Yet much of it is meaningless for us.

It makes no difference for us.

We cannot do or want to do anything about it.

Make sure you follow only what is critical for you.

And use it for decision-making.

What do you care about?

What do you worry about?

Is there a link between the two?

Can you care, yet not worry?

When we care about something,

we can get obsessed about it.

So much that we will worry.

Then worry becomes paralyzing.

And we stress out.

Why all of this? Can you not simply care?

What are you currently struggling with?

Why are you struggling with it?

How have you tried to approach it?

With the tried and tested?

Each of us has specific strengths and weaknesses.

Often, we will encounter things we struggle with.

The tried and tested method might not be a fit.

You can bang your head against the challenge.

Or you created your way of doing it.

Leverage your strengths to create it.

How hard is it to reach your goals?

How often do you get just below it?

What is the value of being realistic?

Why don't you strive for more?

Most of us undershoot our goals.

Our instinct tells us to lower our goals,

yet we keep undershooting.

Raise the bar for yourself.

Ever so higher and the undershooting won't matter.

Idealism is the road to realism.

How often does life give you what you wish for?

How often do you receive challenges instead?

How often do you have the opportunity for your wish?

We often wish for things to be different.

We often wish for us to be different.

Yet life does not just give us these.

Life gives us the opportunity to change things.

Life gives us the opportunity to be different.

Which projects did you never start?

Did you give up on them before trying?

Why did you not start them?

How often did you think, that it was too late?

There is already someone doing it.

I am already too old to start this.

I have a family to look after.

Once we die, it is truly too late.

Before then, it is never too late.

You made a choice, thus it is your responsibility...

Does making a choice make you responsible?

After all, you had a choice, but did you really?

We may be put in a position to make a choice.

A choice between horrible and less horrible.

We choose the less horrible, with all its consequences.

But does this ultimately make us responsible?

Have you had any of these situations?

How do you feel about them?

Choosing is not always equal to responsibility.

How often do you help without being asked?

How does this work out for you?

What do you except from it?

Do you expect appreciation?

Do you expect help in return?

How do you feel when they are not met?

Unasked help should be unconditional.

After all, you were not asked.

Expecting certain behaviors from the other is a fallacy.

If you decide to help, do it for the sake of it.

How does reaching a goal feel?

Is it like you imagined?

How often are you disappointed?

What intentions did you have setting out?

We often have grand fantasies about a goal.

We often get disappointed once we get there.

Our imagination led us by the nose.

Be careful what you wish for.

And be careful what you chase.