Do you shut down communication with people?

For what reasons?

What is your goal behind it?

How has it played out for you in the past?

Shutting down communication is a two-edged sword.

Sometimes it is the right move, sometimes it is a bad idea.

If you are not sure, keep communication open.

It keeps information coming in.

Only shut down if it serves to protect your boundaries.

What do you do when you get frustrated?

Or when you are exhausted?

Which habits do you have?

Do you doom scroll?

Do you stare into a corner?

Do you start binge eating?

What useful habit could you establish instead?

Take a nap, read a book, take a walk, or call a friend.

It is that simple.

Have you experienced stagnation?

How do you react and respond to it?

How do you feel when it happens?

What about progress?

We tend to prefer progress to stagnation.

Stagnation is draining and hard.

Also, it is part of life.

There cannot be progress without stagnation.

Learn to work with and enjoy both.

Do you admit not knowing?

When you are the expert?

When you are asked in public?

When you want to impress?

Or do you ramble on about something?

We often try to answer everything.

Sometimes you just do not know.

If you try to hide it, people notice.

Be honest with your knowledge.

You cannot know everything.

How do you package your ideas?

Which stories can you use?

Which analogies can you use?

Which structure is best?

The way you package your ideas is key.

It is the highest form of communication.

Tell a well-structured and relatable story.

And the world is yours.

Do you have the end in mind?

When you start a project?

When you start a career?

When you engage in a relationship?

Or do you start things out of curiosity?

Or out of interest?

Imagining what it should be like can stress you.

On the other hand without a goal in mind you may get lost.

Don't let either of the two hold you back!

Balance is the key.

What motivates you?

Do rewards motivate you?

What drives your motivation?

There are four ingredients to motivation.

Intrinsic rewards and extrinsic rewards.

Internal drivers and external drivers.

Which is more important?

They all are important.

To perform well for sustained periods of time,

you need to optimize for all four.

Do you have a love affair with the unfolding present moment?

Does unpredictability make you anxious?

Do past events pull at you?

Embrace uncertainty.

Fall in love with it.

Find the opportunity in what life throws at you.

Enjoy the ride for it is finite.

How do you react to no-shows?

Do you accept it?

Do you get angry?

Do you feel not valued?

Do you have compassion for no-shows?

A person might not show up for many reasons.

Some reasons afford compassion.

Some reasons afford anger and consequences.

Never should it make you feel worthless.

Are you creating momentum?

How can you increase momentum?

Are you stuck in static situations?

How can you add momentum there?

Creating momentum is crucial.

Terrible situations with momentum can trump,

relaxed situations with no movement.

Go where the momentum happens.

You are asked to take on a responsibility.

Should you take on the responsibility?

Do you want to take it on?

What is the correct way of taking it on?

When you are asked to take on responsibility,

find out what the correct way is.

What contracts are needed?

Which procedures need following?

Responsibility brings risks, so consider it accordingly.

Do you see an opportunity with amazing potential?

Do you also see the potential downsides?

Or do you see no downsides?

Upside and downside tend to be in balance.

If the upside is huge, so is the downside.

If there is little downside, then there is little upside.

Great asymmetric opportunities are very rare.

Rare, difficult to spot or to create.

Most are bad ones, with huge downsides, and little upsides.

Are you stuck on a project?

Why do you think you are stuck?

How long have you been working on it?

What do you need to get unstuck?

Is it time for a break?

Our interests, performance, and attention come and go.

We work and think in seasons.

Make sure to switch between things every few months.

Take a step back to take three forward.

Are you trying to run from your responsibilities?

Maybe just a single one?

How well is that working for you?

What can you do right now to improve the situation?

Just a single action.

One single one.

Start small and easy.

Just do, for there is no running from them.

Is there something you fear?

Something that you can feel is coming?

Something you know you will need to handle?

But you do not want to do?

Is the fear of it causing anxiety?

Once the thing you fear is there, the anxiety about it drops.

Treat the situation as if it is here already.

If it is likely to happen, there is no running from it.

Is one of your projects stuck?

Do you think the other party is stalling?

How patient are you being?

What reasons could there be for the stalling?

When you are being stalled, be careful.

Find the reason for it.

Do not count on it working out.

Do not commit to a staller.

Find another solution.

Where does compassion stop?

And where does shame begin?

Can you feel the pain your decision causes?

Do you feel ashamed because of it?

Even if the decision is the right one?

Your decisions have consequences.

Sometimes they are not your problem.

Sometimes they are not your responsibilities.

Draw the line, where it should be drawn.

Who are you?

Could you please introduce yourself?

What do you do?

Have you prepared an answer for these?

Are you comfortable with the answer?

Introducing ourselves is a constant quest.

It helps to prepare answers.

It helps to have different ones depending on the setting.

Lead with what makes your heart sing.

Do you pressure others?

To decide what you deem right?

To do what you wish them to?

To sell what you want?

To buy what you want to sell?

How well do these things turn out long-term?

Pressuring people into things delivers short-term gains.

Long-term they produce disaster.

What is achievement?

How do you define it?

What do you need to achieve things?

Have you got the necessary skills?

Do you have the necessary motivation?

Do you put enough effort into it?

Did you pick the right thing to achieve?

Many questions to ask ourselves before we embark on a path.

Skill, effort, and motivation are such crucial components.

Make sure to have plenty of all three of them.