How well do you listen do advice?

How well do you select whom to listen to?

Have they got relevant experience?

Will they suffer any consequences from your actions?

Why should you listen to them?

People love giving advice.

Advice that serves them.

Advice that is based on opinion.

Advice that is irrelevant to your situation.

Be careful who you listen to.

Ask the right people.

How well do you know your boundaries?

Do you communicate them to others?

How well does that work for you?

Have some people used it against you?

Some people will use your boundaries against you.

Here you should set internal boundaries.

Known to you, not know to them.

And with some, you can communicate them.

Learn to discern these people and act accordingly.

What does fun mean for you?

What activities do you enjoy?

Which people can you have fun with?

Who is not fun?

And which activities are not fun?

Fun and play are integral parts of a content life.

If we have too little fun, life gets bland.

Life is too short to be bland.

Do what is fun, now and again.

Who did you used to be?

Who are you now?

Who do you want to be?

How is the place you are in affecting this?

We usually develop and change.

We are not anymore who we were.

And we want to be someone else to now.

People from your past often see you how you were.

People from your present may keep you who you are.

Be aware of this and fly.

How much memorabilia do you hold onto?

Why do you have the ones that you do?

Do you limit how much you have?

What and whom do you remember by it?

We hold onto all sorts of trinkets and objects.

We believe we need them to remember.

But do you really need them?

And are all the memories important?

What do you prioritize?

The urgent or the important?

Your personal tasks or what others impose on you?

What is your responsibility?

We tend to do more of the urgent work.

And too less of the important work.

What is important right now?

Do that and ignore all else.

Do you look to history to project the future?

How well does that work for you?

On a macro, micro, and personal level?

How does it influence your decisions?

Projecting the future is difficult, very difficult.

We get it wrong most of the time.

One bad experience is not an adequate amount of data.

With enough data points, history is a good source.

After all, history never repeats itself, but it rhymes.

How happy are you to come home?

What makes you happy?

What makes you unhappy?

Do you feel at home where you are?

What do you need to change?

We often stay in places for too long.

We often stay in places for the wrong reasons.

We are often afraid of change,

albeit we really need it.

What do you expect from the future?

How do you feel about the future?

Are you anxious about the future?

The future can ever promise one thing,

and one thing only: surprises!

All you can do is trust in fate.

Be prepared for whatever happens.

See the opportunities and take them.

Fear of the future will do you no good.

Who in your life is holding you back?

How do they hold you back?

Why do they do it?

Are you actually aware of it?

People can hold you back a lot.

Even people who are close to you.

They don't necessarily do it out of malice.

They may be scared, perfectionistic, pessimistic,...

They may do it consciously or unconsciously.

What matters is that you realize it,

and cut off the shackles.

When did you last take a step back?

What happened after you did so?

Why did you take the step back?

Often we need to take a step backwards,

in order to move forward again.

Sometimes several steps.

Particularly if we are on the wrong trajectory.

Do not underestimate the power of a step back.

How well do you follow through on your plans?

Why do you you stop?

For good reasons?

Out of fear?

Lack of motivation?

We often do things with a plan in mind.

Then we do not follow through.

Later what we did seemed daft.

Sometimes the plan was rubbish, so we stopped.

Often times we stop for the wrong reasons.

laziness, fear, overwhelm, other's opinions.

What is your plan today?

How often are you surprised?

How often was it foreseeable?

Should you have expected it?

Why did you not?

We regularly are surprised,

by foreseeable events.

Sometimes multiple times,

by the same old thing.

Reflect on your surprises.

And learn to expect the foreseeable.

How does your mood affect others?

Are you aware of these effects?

How does your mood change your behavior?

How much control do you have over your mood?

Our behavior changes depending on our mood.

The way we treat others also changes.

Should your mood be an excuse for this?

Even if it is hard on some days,

try to not let it affect your behavior.

You are in control of what you do.

Who have you not seen in a while?

Do you miss them?

What is stopping you?

Are these things really so important?

People are not here forever.

Make sure you spend time with them.

One day they will be gone forever.

And you might be left with regret.

Instead of beautiful memories.

How do you communicate?

How well do people understand you?

Do you speak explicit or implicit?

Are you impolite or polite?

Direct yet polite is the way.

You do not need to be impolite to be direct.

You do not need to be complicated to be polite.

Say what you mean.

Which of your problems have disappeared on their own?

Which problems could have done so, had you left them?

Which problems have blown up because you left them?

Not all problems are created equal.

And not all are worth our attention.

And some will go away by themselves.

Learning how to identify these is bliss.

What can you ignore today?

Why are some people overly nice to you?

Is their behavior warranted?

Or are they overdoing it?

What could be their goal?

Are they like this to everyone?

Some people use niceness to get things.

Usually to get them from you.

How often do you fall for this?

How often do you point your finger?

Are you quick to do so?

How clean is your own house?

What is the consequence of pointing your finger?

Often, we point our finger at others...

...yet we are none the better!

Being harsh on others is like a boomerang.

It will come back.

Only when your house is clean, will there be little consequence.

So, how clean is your house?

How readily do you embrace change?

How often do you resist change?

How long does resisting it work?

How well do you execute change?

Many changes in life are inevitable.

If you refuse, life will force you at some point.

Forced change is painful.

Voluntary change is beautiful.