Do people misinterpret you?

How does it make you feel?

What are the consequences for you?

What can you gain from it?

Being misinterpreted is frustrating.

Being misinterpreted can be a gift.

That asymmetry brings opportunity.

How can you use the opportunity?

Do you give people a chance?

In which context do you do it?

Are you ready to suffer potential consequences?

Giving people a chance is a double-edged sword.

It can work wonders.

It can be a disaster.

Do it when the outcome is inconsequential.

Thus you help, without harming yourself.

What is your next move?

What will bring you closer?

What is attainable?

Why should you take the step?

How will you execute it?

We can only move closer one step at a time.

No matter how small the step,

No matter in which direction,

A step is progress.

Ever had good news, yet no joy from them?

What was the reason?

What else was going on?

Who was involved?

Sometimes good news is overshadowed.

We then simply feel no joy.

Even if we should and normally would.

In this case, fake it, and force yourself to celebrate.

Life is too short to ignore your wins.

Are you caught in a maelstrom?

Maybe by a family drama?

Maybe from a toxic friendship?

Maybe due to a failed work project?

Why are you in it?

Can you escape it?

We are quickly caught in the suction of problems.

Which problems are worth it?

How can you escape the spiral?

How much work does success take?

How much time does success take?

How large are the results?

Consistency is the key in your process.

Paydays often don't happen consistently.

We need to work diligently on things.

Time then brings the results.

The results then seem sudden and large.

Which opportunities did you miss?

Which of them do you regret not taking?

What is that regret doing for you?

Which new opportunities did you miss due to regret?

"When one door closes another door opens;

but we so often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door,

that we do not see the ones which open for us." - Alexander Graham Bell

Move on quickly and keep your eyes open,

otherwise, it seems like the door never opened.

Who are you loyal to?

Whom of those should you be disloyal to?

Are you loyal to people who have wronged you?

Why?

Let go of those who harmed you.

Be disloyal to those who drag you down.

Be loyal to yourself.

Be loyal to your future.

Do you tend to force things?

How well has that gone for you?

Why do you do it?

We tend to force things that we want.

Often, the outcome is a disaster.

Sometimes things may need that push.

When someone is not ready, beware.

People may say yes and then act the opposite.

Pressuring them may come to bite you.

Do you have an exit plan?

Out of a business partnership?

Out of a romantic partnership?

Out of a friendship?

Agree on exit plans with your partners.

Not many things last forever.

Disputes happen, and feelings are hurt.

Defining an exit plan for everyone helps navigate this.

When is the time to start?

Could there be a better time?

Should you start right now?

Does your plan need more work?

Start now, right now.

Start with however you can.

Quality or quantity does not matter.

You will figure it out on the way.

Good luck, it is part of the game.

How do you plan?

Do you make a detailed plan first?

And then you go into execution?

Or do you plan and act, and repeat?

We are often taught to plan in detail.

And then execute the plan.

Real life is more about planning iteratively.

Plan and act and repeat till the goal is reached.

How important is winning for you?

When and where is it crucial to win?

When and where is it less important?

Do you always play to win?

Knowing when winning is important is crucial.

Knowing when it is unimportant equally.

Don't burn yourself on trivial matters.

Work to win when it matters.

What makes you really angry?

Why do you get angry?

Who can make you very angry?

Why do they make you angry?

The things we get angry about, we care about.

The people that make us angry, we care about.

If a friend or family member lies to you,

it is worse than if it is a stranger.

How do you perceive yourself?

Do you oversell your achievements?

Do you undersell your achievements?

Being overly boastful will bite you in the future.

Being overly humble will bite you now.

Being confident in your ability is hard work.

Achievements are facts, so communicate them.

Leave the ratings to the others.

What is the value of your work?

What do you charge for it?

What do people pay for it?

What do people pay your competitor?

Is that worth as much?

Price and value are two very different things.

Worthless things can be expensive.

Valuable things can be cheap.

Be valuable and be expensive.

Trust in yourself.

How well do you keep your structure?

How well do you keep your boundaries?

Does it all disintegrate sometimes?

When and why does it disintegrate?

We all have some sort of structure in our life.

We all experience chaotic and hard times.

We all lose ourselves in these times.

It is normal, be kind to yourself and get back on track.

The same applies to others.

Short-term gain or long-term gain?

What do you prioritize?

What are the consequences of either?

Usually, we need to choose one or the other.

Short-term gain leads to long-term loss.

And vice versa.

Sometimes one is the right option,

Sometimes the other.

Be sure to know what your goal is.

How positive are your interactions?

What is the ratio between positive and negative?

Is this different depending on the relationship?

Should it be different?

To be perceived as neutral you need 2:1 in a work setting.

Thriving work relationships have a 3:1 ratio.

To be perceived as neutral in love, you need 3:1.

Thriving relationships have a 6:1 ratio.

The Losado ratios of life.